So, you’re finally moving out – exciting, nerve-wracking, same difference. The allure of freedom and independence may be shiny and captivating, but let’s be real: it’s not all Pinterest-worthy flats and late-night takeaways.
There’s plenty of advice on how to decorate your space or which spices to stock in your kitchen, but what about the less glamorous realities? Transitioning from living under your caregivers’ roof to fully sustaining yourself is a massive shift – whether you’re sharing a flat with someone new or living alone for the first time. Here’s what I wish I’d known before making the move.
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Learning To Live Under Different Circumstances
Even if you’re used to shared spaces, living with a flatmate brings a whole new set of dynamics. Or maybe the challenge isn’t them – it’s getting used to a new neighbourhood or being entirely alone for the first time. Either way, expect some bumps in the road.
If You’re Used To Having Others Around
Grew up with siblings or in a bustling household? Moving out alone can feel surprisingly unsettling. Suddenly, there’s no one to split chores with, no casual background noise, and no one to bug when you’re bored. It can feel too quiet at times.
That said, be mindful not to slip into isolation – it’s easy to overcorrect. Make a conscious effort to socialise with friends. Play some music and dance away – it’s time to learn how to enjoy your own company. It might feel uncomfortable at first, especially if solitude is a new concept, but once you master it, you’ll realise just how rewarding this skill can be. After all, nobody knows you like you do.
If You’re Used To Being Alone
Perhaps you’re an only child, or maybe you’ve never had to share more than a common area – but chances are, you’re used to full control over your routine and space. Living with someone new means adapting to a whole different rhythm. Their habits, good or bad, will affect you. Maybe they love late-night gaming while you’re in bed by 11pm, or their definition of ‘clean’ is debatable. Whatever the case, communication and compromise are crucial. Speak up early – assume nothing and communicate everything. Agree to compromise only where necessary, and never at the expense of your comfort or well-being. This also means being honest when something makes you uncomfortable.
Boundaries Are Everything
Your home should be your sanctuary. Setting boundaries isn’t just about flatmates – it applies even when you live alone, though in slightly different ways.
With flatmates, it’s important to establish ground rules with each other early on. This includes cleaning schedules, guest policies, special accommodations, and noise levels. Build the habit of addressing concerns promptly rather than harbouring unresolved resentment. Left unaddressed, that buildup breeds passive-aggressiveness – the last thing you want at home.
When you’re living alone, it means sticking to routines – or at least creating a framework to anchor your days. Structure is your saviour, and you’ll quickly understand why. Without it, life unravels fast. Your boundaries and time management shape how you perceive and respond to every aspect of life. Equally vital: set limits with work. Maintain a clear work-life balance, and ensure your home doesn’t morph into a 24/7 workspace – especially if you work remotely.
Freedom Can Be A Trap
Ironically, the newfound freedom you gain when moving out could be what keeps you trapped. Once you’re on your own, no one is there to keep you in check. You can eat instant noodles for dinner every night, stay up scrolling until sunrise, and put off doing laundry indefinitely. But there’s always a catch. The lack of structure catches up fast. Suddenly, nobody’s reminding you to eat properly, nobody’s stopping you from wasting money on takeaways, and – most crucially – there are no set bedtimes. You’ll regret those all-nighters soon enough. The rules you once resented? Turns out, they’re what kept you somewhat sane and functioning. Without them, bad habits and vices creep in really fast.
Be Your Own Parent (Because No One Else Will)
Taking care of yourself sounds simple – until you realise how much effort it actually takes. It can be mentally taxing, especially for those navigating mental health challenges. Want the truth? The parenting and policing never end. The only difference is that now you’re the one nagging and urging yourself to make reasonable decisions – at least, that’s how it should be. It’s become easy to slip into autopilot, particularly in a post-Covid world where staying indoors became the norm. But a lack of structure can lead to self-neglect without even realising it.
It all comes down to building beliefs and habits. Recognise that your emotions don’t dictate your ability to act. You might feel tired, but that doesn’t mean you can’t cook. In fact, cook because you’re tired and need fuel – even if it’s just the basics. Cook, clean, and move your body. Step outside and feel the sun on your skin, even if it’s just a short walk – isolation isn’t self-care. Be strict with yourself when needed; your future self will thank you. And remember, no one else will hold you accountable – so show up for yourself.
Money Flows Out Quickly
Rent is just the tip of the iceberg. The real shocker? The tiny, never-ending expenses – like these:
- Utilities and WiFi – You’ll miss free air conditioning fast, and learn to savour every drop of hot water (especially in this economy).
- Cleaning supplies – Yes, you actually have to buy dish soap and all sorts of other sudsy essentials – repeatedly.
- Household basics – Think bin liners, light bulbs… the list never ends. Stocking up saves you the avoidable stress of running out mid-crisis.
If you don’t track your spending, you’ll blink and wonder where your money vanished. Not yet budgeting? Start now – every little expense adds up. Truly. Most people underestimate their actual spending (guilty – sound familiar?).
Another pro tip: Plan meals ahead. It cuts waste, encourages mindful consumption, and builds life skills – all while saving cash.
Slow Down, There’s No Rush
The urge to recreate your dream flat immediately is very real – especially when you’re eager to host friends. But let’s keep it real: Good things take time. Trust the process. Putting pressure on yourself to rush perfection will only delay progress. Instead, prioritise function over perfection – find pieces that work for now and upgrade later. Focus on creating a comfortable space you can enjoy today. Save the dream-home vision for tomorrow.
When furniture hunting, scour second-hand markets like Carousell, Facebook Marketplace, or local fairs. You’ll likely uncover unique gems – mint-condition treasures at a fraction of their original price. Most importantly, embrace the journey. Your space will evolve with you. A home isn’t just about aesthetics – it’s about comfort, function, and reflecting where you are in life.
Be Patient With Yourself
Moving out is an incredible milestone – but it’s also a test of responsibility, self-awareness, and balance. No guide will spare you from mistakes, though knowing what to expect softens the stumble. Would I do it all over again? Absolutely. But I’d approach it with far more patience and far less pressure to ‘figure it all out’ overnight.
Rachel Tang
Rachel Tang is the Social Media Manager and a contributing writer at Friday Club., where she combines her expertise in PR and Marketing with a passion for storytelling. She began writing for a media platform early in her career, which sparked a love for storytelling that still drives her work today. With a deep passion for fashion, music, and all things pretty, Rachel is always on the lookout for the next best thing – and she’s quick to rave about it to those around her.
